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When you hire an escort, you may have to wait a while for a reply to your first message...

"How long should I wait for a response to my booking request?"

Georgie Wolf
Georgie Wolf
If I message an escort about a booking, how long should I wait for a response before sending a gentle reminder? How long should I wait before I assume the answer is “no” and move on?

I understand that, when you've contacted an escort, waiting for a reply can be nerve-wracking.

But it’s difficult for me to give you a specific answer to this question. Everyone has a different way of doing business, so where one escort might reply within the hour, another might take two days.

Below are some ideas on how long to wait and what to do if you don't hear back.

Always book in advance

This is one of the reasons I recommend booking well in advance.

If you’re looking for a same-day appointment and the escort you contact happens to be away for the day, you’re time will be wasted waiting for them to get back to you.

Advance-notice bookings also have other advantages: less stress, more time to build anticipation, and the opportunity to plan the finer details with your professional.

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Set your own time limit

One of my clients, Mr B, has been seeing escorts for years. He send an enquiry, waits three days, then moves on to the next option. I think it’s great to set a rule like this and stick to it – it means you don’t have to fret about whether to give up or wait around longer.

Just remember that an escort has their own life to attend to, and other clients to take care of too. It's not reasonable to expect an immediate reply, even for a text message or a DM.

I don’t think a gentle reminder is necessary. If you don’t hear back within your pre-determined timeframe, then it’s time to try your next best option.


Don't take it personally

Didn't get a reply? Try not to take it personally.

Escorts might drop out of contact for many reasons – travel, being on long bookings, taking a break, just to name a few. Similarly, it's important to note that just because you don't hear back, doesn't necessarily mean the escort is unprofessional. It might be worth trying again in a few months, in case they're not currently checking their messages.

Not hearing back from anyone? Take another look at your messages

If you've contacted several escorts and haven’t received a reply from any, it might be time to look over your messages and make sure you’re sending the right type of booking inquiry.

Some requests or questions might be seen as offensive, or make it look like you're not serious about booking a session. If you're not sure what to say in your message, here's a beginner's guide.