I’ve been seeing the same escort for almost 2 years and feel as though we have developed a warm wonderful connection based around boundaries and trust. I really look forward to each encounter. My question is this; Do escorts feel put out or upset if a regular client chooses to see another provider? I feel awkward raising this with her.
Having a long-term professional relationship with an escort can be very rewarding.
My clients and I have the opportunity to trust and get to know each other – much more so than just after a few meetings! Long-term clients are wonderful, and personally I’d definitely be sad if one of them decided to stop seeing me and start seeing someone else.
But like any other business, it’s your choice as to where you spend your money. An escort session isn’t a romantic relationship – there’s no obligation to commit.
If you're simply planning to book other workers occasionally, there's no need to even have the conversation. It’s nobody else’s business how many escorts you see, or who you choose to spend time with. It’s also not necessary to tell your regular worker that you're seeing other people (it's not that kind of relationship!) If it happens to come up in conversation, an experienced professional shouldn’t give you a hard time.
But what if you've decided to switch escorts entirely? Just as an escort isn’t obligated to tell you when they leave the industry, a client isn’t obligated to notify their escort when they change providers. It’s a courtesy, but it can’t be demanded.
If you've been seeing one worker for a long time, it's polite to let them know you won’t be booking again for a while, and thank them for the time you’ve spent together. If you’ve been meeting with your escort regularly, they may be relying on the income you’re providing - advising them, so they can budget accordingly, is the kindest way to approach the situation.
Leaving on good terms will be useful if you decide to see that person again (or if you require a favour, such as a reference, in future). As long as you're polite and considerate, most escorts will be understanding (though perhaps a little disappointed, if you're a good customer!)
Having these sorts of conversations can feel awkward and difficult, much like ending a romantic relationship. But, unlike a romance, your provider hopefully understands that it's not personal. Spend some time crafting a few sentences to send via text or email. Don't worry if it's not perfect - most of the time, we'll appreciate the fact that you made the effort.
In short: It’s okay to call it quits, but we always appreciate a “Goodbye, and thanks!”
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