To find the perfect playmate, look further than the physical

Boobs: everybody loves them, but they’re distracting.

Scroll through an escort ad site and you’ll see every type of body imaginable. Beautiful hair, sexy lingerie, seductive smiles… and lots of cleavage.

It’s overwhelming. It’s like going to the store for a carton of milk and getting stuck in the chocolate aisle. You may be looking for something specific, but it’s difficult to concentrate when you’re surrounded by so many other tempting options!

This is the difficulty every client must confront when they set out to find their perfect escort.

The success of your escort booking depends on whether your needs are matched to the personality and services of the person you choose to see. But how are you supposed to locate the right person, when confronted with pages of gorgeous, professionally-retouched images? How can you tell what sort of personality your escort has, simply by looking at a photo or reading a quick profile description?

It’s time to put your detective hats on, folks. I’m going to show you how to increase your chances of matching with the right escort, by doing your research and checking in during the booking process.

Search for an escort based on personality

Real-life romance often starts with appearance. You might see someone hot when you’re out on the town and think ‘wow, they’re totally my type’. But until you actually strike up a conversation, there’s no way to know whether you’re suited to each other.

When you're looking for an escort to spend time with, you might not have access to that kind of information. There's no opportunity to size them up in person first. Working out what someone is like becomes much more difficult.

Difficult, but not impossible.

A successful escort knows how to let their uniqueness shine through in their marketing. Their ads, photos, and social accounts will give you hints as to what they're like in person.

Here are a few things to watch out for:

• How they describe their service - you can learn a lot about a worker from the way they describe the experience they offer. Some escorts might mention 'girlfriend experience' or 'porn star experience'; although these are a rough guide only, they might give you an indication of the kind of session to expect.
• What they're like on social media - platforms such as Twitter are a great way to observe your potential playmate in the wild.

Bu concentrating on words and actions rather than photos, you'll build up a well-rounded impression of the person you're hoping to meet.

Some escort advertising sites, such a Tryst, even allow you to search for a specific keyword. If you're looking for someone who describes themselves as 'shy' or 'adventurous' or 'dominant', searching might bring up some great results.

Make sure their services match your needs

A good escort/client match means finding someone who can give you the specific experience you're looking for. Whether you're into romantic cuddling, kink, or butt play, there are people out there who specialise.

If you're in a location where it's allowed, many escorts will list their services on their advertisement. It's not guaranteed, but it's a great way to make sure they're a good fit.

Unfortunately, sometimes an escort can't list specific sexual service. If you don't see a 'menu' or a list of available activities, it could simply mean they're in a location where sharing those details is prohibited.

Check in during the booking process

Let’s say you’ve found someone who seems to have everything you need – their profile description sounds right, they offer the services you want, and they look sexy, too.

Up to this point we’re still just guessing.  Even if a worker seems perfect, you won’t know until you actually start the conversation. When you send your booking enquiry , it helps to be as up-front as possible about what you want, so that your escort can let you know whether they're suited to you.

Here's an example:

"Hi, I'm getting in touch because I saw your ad and I'd like to arrange a meeting next Wednesday night. I really enjoy spending time with assertive women who can take charge, is that something you can do?"

As an escort, his level of detail makes me happy. I love getting the right information a potential client – it means I don’t have to guess what they might need. It also means that if we go ahead with the booking, I can spend time planning a great experience for them, rather than continually wondering what to do next.

If your potential date writes back to say ‘no’, it’s not a disaster. Sometimes it’s difficult to predict exactly what sort of service an escort may provide – and it’s better to find out now than waste your time.

By saying ‘no thank you,’ the escort is doing you a favour. Rather than taking a job they aren’t suited to, they are being honest so that you can quickly move on to the next best option.