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Giving gifts to your regular sex worker can be fun, if you do it right.

Perfect presents: 6 things to consider BEFORE gifting your escort

Georgie Wolf
Georgie Wolf

Giving gifts to your escort isn't an obligation, but sometimes it's fun.

It can be a way to show appreciation towards someone you’ve been seeing a lot, or who has made a big difference to your life. Or you may be the type of person who loves spoiling your playmates and making them happy.

When I started in the industry, I didn’t like receiving presents. I didn’t want my clients to feel as though anything extra was expected, and I felt that my fees were more than enough. Why expect people to purchase gifts and treats when they had already invested in my company?

But over the years, my attitude has changed. I’ve come to appreciate how much some of my clients enjoy giving. I’ve shared my interests with a number of long-term clients, and they've gifted me movie memorabilia, anime collectibles, and books - items that delight us both.

If you feel you’d like to give your escort something special, go ahead. But be careful! It doesn’t always end well – an inappropriate or poorly-considered gift can be worse than no gift at all.

Here are some ideas on how to select a great gift for your worker.

1. Ask first

There’s no shame in saying, “I’d love to bring you a Christmas gift for our next booking, would that be okay?”

Not everyone is comfortable accepting gifts. Some folks can’t take them home, for privacy reasons. And the type of items might be an issue – what if they’re allergic to flowers? What if they can’t eat chocolate? Asking first means you’ll lose that element of surprise, but remember….spoiling the surprise is much better than disappointing someone with a present they can’t enjoy.

2. If you're not sure, keep it simple

Small, inexpensive gifts of chocolate, wine, or flowers are almost always appreciated…and there’s much less risk of picking something your escort doesn’t like.

I’ve heard stories of guys who have made the mistake of gifting items that were completely wrong, simply because they didn’t know their provider well enough. If you haven’t already discussed her favorite brand (and size) of lingerie or that amazing sex toy she’s always wanted, stick to a bottle of bubbly or a bouquet.

Flexible presents such as movie and spa vouchers are also wonderful.

Everyone has different tastes - it's a good idea to keep the receipt, just in case.

3. If you choose something expensive, include the receipt.

I know that this goes against the rules of traditional gift-giving – social custom dictates that we’re not supposed to reveal how much we spend, and it’s not considered polite to swap your gifts at the store!

But if you really want to please your escort, why not give them the option of selecting a different color or size?  You want them to be delighted, not disappointed because they’re stuck with something that's not quite right.

By including the receipt, you’re ensuring your escort ends up with something that’s perfect.

Has your escort expressed an interest in a particular sex toy?

4. If you buy sex toys, make sure they’re for HER, not for you.

Gifting toys that you expect to be used with you during sessions isn’t a favor, it’s a service request. If you buy adult toys, choose something your lady (or guy, or person) has expressed an interest in, and make it clear you don’t expect them to share it with you.

Of course, if you’re hoping to experiment with a particular toy, there’s nothing wrong with asking first then purchasing the item you want and bringing it along to your next session together. But that’s not a gift – that’s a part of our service.

(Click here to find out what I think about sex toys – and how to choose something that suits your escort.)

5. Don't include hidden expectations

Similarly to the above, presents don’t entitle you to free booking time or special treatment- the giving should be enough in itself.

When we give gifts, we do it so we can experience the fun and excitement of making someone happy. If you’re not the type of person who enjoys present-giving – or you’re doing it because you’re hoping for something in return – then it’s going to feel weird, and your escort will feel awkward.

Episode 18: Escort gift-giving etiquette, with client Clark
Some workers welcome gifts and tips, and some clients love giving them. I chat with experienced client Clark to explore the nuances of giving and receiving.

6. Sometimes ‘personal’ is better than ‘expensive.’

Many of my clients have given me handwritten cards over the years to celebrate special occasions. I keep them in a box in my closet and take them out to read when I’m having a bad day.

Extravagant gifts can be fun, but sometimes a personal note means much more than a grand gesture.